‘I’ll be happy tomorrow.’
Really? When what happens?
When you get that new job? You win the lottery? When all your problems miraculously disappear?
If you spend your life wishing your todays away, you’ll be chasing happiness forever.
Adopt ‘the day after thinking’.
What’s the ‘day after thinking’? Let’s take an example:
1. The crock of gold at the end of the rainbow: A job promotion.
Tomorrow thinking says, ‘once I get that job promotion, I’ll be happier’
Why? Because it will mean more prestige, more money, more happiness.
The ‘day after tomorrow thinking’ says, ‘Wrong my friend, very wrong! It will mean more stress, more debt, more unhappiness.’
Why? Because if you look beyond the initial glow of that first up-rated paycheck, what you may have swapped it for is years of more responsibility, more hours, more stress. And more debt.
Ok, you might agree with the responsibility and hours, but more debt? Yeah, your pay rise could very well lead to more debt except you get proper money management skills.
So once you’ve discarded ‘tomorrow’ thinking for the ‘day after’ thinking, does it mean it’s pointless to go after anything in the future from a pay rise to a holiday?
The way to make a quantum leap in your happiness level right now is to realize that it doesn’t have to depend on any spurious changes tomorrow.
Concentrate on being happier everyday with what you already have today, not what you dream of getting tomorrow. Then you can chase all the rainbows and unicorns and pots of gold you want.