“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” – Fred Douglass.
As parents or teachers, carers of children, you have a very important role in giving them feedback. Feedback is a gift of love that shows you care about them and have an investment in their personal development.
- We should avoid saying such things as, ‘that doesn’t really hurt,’ or, ‘you have no right to be angry’. A child is entitled to any emotion; what she isn’t entitled to is behaving in a way that endangers herself or someone else.
- Talking about our own feelings is a powerful role model. Use ‘I’ statements when you can: “I feel bad when you speak in a rude tone of voice.”
- Make expressing feelings easy and fun: Paste emotive faces from a magazine or draw simple ones on a cardboard circle – happy, sad, angry, and tearful. Stick them to accessible surfaces and encourage your children to use them.
- Validate feelings whenever possible. Not only does that give a child words, it also helps him feel less alone.
- Don’t wait for a traumatic event to talk about feelings.
Can there be anything worse than a child been ignored?