Are you living out any of these Scripts

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Are you living out any of these Scripts

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There are 3 main types of Core belief: Belief about oneself that inform self image. Belief about others; how they interact with you and belief about life in general or how the world function.

The following 11 scripts “no-no’s” will provide a useful way of exploring some of our limiting beliefs.

1) Don’t exist: If you have ever felt worthless, useless or unlovable, it may be that this script is part of your belief system. Remember that we are dealing with infant perception. A parent may say or do things in the heat of the moment…and a child may hear, “if it weren’t for you I could have gone to the University, or be able to travel”…and deduce that the parent really wishes he/she was dead.

2) Don’t be who you are: This can be conveyed to a girl by parents who wanted a boy; to an artistic child by parents who wanted a sporty type.

3) Don’t feel: This means don’t laugh, cry or be angry or scared when you feel like. Sometimes there is a ban on a particular set of feelings in a family; feeling can be experienced but not shown. Boys are usually taught to hide their hurt: like “big boys don’t cry”. Allow a child to express his/her feelings; it is part of healthy growth.

4) Don’t grow up: These ideas can arise from a parent who loves babies but find it difficult to relate to children as they grow up. People who have this belief find it hard to take adult responsibility.

5) Don’t be close: This may be put across by parents who rarely touch each other or talk about their feelings. Or it may be the result of a parent leaving suddenly or dying. The child might decide, there is no point in getting close to anyone; this can make it hard to maintain an intimate relationship.

6) Don’t think: This comes from a parent who continually belittles a child. A child proudly explains something and the parent laugh over it. A child ask a question and is ignored. The child may get the messag that there is no point thinking things out. As an adult, he or she will probably feel confused by thinking and discount his or her own abilities.

7) Be Perfect: When a child achieve personal goals, either in tests/ exams and the parents always say, “you can do better” or you should be smarter. A person that grows under this condition will physically look tense, stern, eyes looking up for the best answer, may be stroking chin.

Others are Try hard, Please me, Hurry up and Be strong.

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Dayo Fawusi
Dayo Fawusi
I am Dayo Fawusi - a UK certified professional life coach, US certified behavior consultant, writer, entrepreneur and a champion in Lean Six Sigma methodology. I am a gentle, optimistic and refined People manager, who looks for balance and harmony everywhere with a great sense of justice. I have a mission to cooperate, to persuade, to mediate, to conciliate, equalize things around me and work for the peace and harmony of the world. I have a deep interest in human performance development and world cultures. I spend most of my time coaching individuals and consulting on strategy, innovation, projects and human resource development. I have consistently in my previous jobs working with multinational and multifunctional groups, demonstrated strong ability to motivate, challenge and inspire individuals and groups to greater participation and dedication. I am skillful in creating vision, managing change and motivating others to achieve excellence in performance. I have great ability to identify patterns, structures and connections within information and quantifiable data.

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